Chapter 2 – Breathing and Meditation

Many women find it difficult to become pregnant as a result of stress, especially stress as a result of their career and emotions from events in their lives. Stress creates contractions and road blocks. The tension creates fear, thoughts and much internal noise.

Since pregnancy is an internal process it requires a lot of silence and attentiveness without unnecessary noises, without shrinking, and without stress.

In cases of competitive women who take on male roles for themselves, they forget sometimes the close connection between the heart and the womb. In those cases, once a woman wants to become pregnant, it can take her more time to remember the circular and harmonize the movement of the womb and the moon that symbolizes feminine movement.

Attentive and conscious breathing connects us to tranquility and returns this quality in us.One can imagine that the person entering the world is going through his mother’s womb: the air around us envelops us like a womb. When we inhale the here and now, we connect to the here and now, and we begin to move in harmony.




When you wake up in the morning and everything is turned upside down, this means that you are not keeping rhythm with the heartbeat of the universe and Mother Earth. These days, you do not want to fight with the non-flowing energy, but rather, to try and change it by changing the way you listen to the energy that surrounds you. So, stop, relax, listen, meditate or do some breathing exercise (you can also do Qigong, Yoga, Tai Chi, etc.), and connect through breathing with the rhythm of the day. Then, when you feel balance, move on to other tasks.

When we forget to breathe, our breath becomes more and more flat, and we rarely breath into our lower abdominal. Stress makes our breathing shallow and creates a lot of tension in the upper or lower abdomen so that the diaphragm does not rise and fall properly. When the diaphragm moves up and down, it is actually massaging the internal organs of the body, so a deep breath that reaches into the lower abdomen and chest is very important.

Deep breathing brings more oxygen to the body’s cells. You should practice it. The breath should be loose and you should be aware of what is happening so that when you work at a computer, for example, or are talking on the phone pay attention to whether or not you have a relaxed or flexed abdomen.

The Chinese word for “breath” is actually written as two words together: Exhale and inhale. When these two words are written together, then it is actually read as breathing. It’s interesting, because we are asked first to exhale, turning the old air into clean energy. There is now space in the lungs. Then, we inhale new air into the lungs. When these two processes happen together, removing the old and bringing in the new, we have breath.
My Buddhist teacher once told me, regarding my breathing process, “To exhale without resisting, inhale without holding.”

This describes how breathing is a natural process and we just have to commit to it naturally. We cannot catch air and you can only feel it through the experience of breath. Words cannot describe it, just as it is impossible to describe God or the soul. I like to say this phrase to my patients while I perform abdominal massage. It help them connect to the therapeutic process that receives life.

Think about it: without breathing and oxygen –there is no life!!
In Chinese medicine there is a connection between the colon and the lungs. Both of these organs are responsible for healthy releases: the lungs give off carbon dioxide, and the colon passes stool. Women often hold onto an old emotional harms or fears .It is those emotional dregs that may cause them to have difficulty breathing. The first step of this process is to help them let go through breathing.

Meditation and breathing help to create a calm center in the heart cavity and the womb. Then, the next step of our journey can be detected and heard in the space. When we have calm and quite we can hear our higher guide telling us what our next step should be.

My teacher, Chi Kung, would often say to me, “Your heart should be calm like a lake, so calm you can see the reflection of your patients in your heart”. That means we have to be quiet so that the heart will be like a lake. It will be calm as in a night of the full moon, so that the full moon will reflect on the water. When waves and ripples move across the lake (these are thoughts and feelings which are not harmonic) the dirt from the bottom of the lake rises up, and we do not see our face (or the full moon) reflected in the lake.
Instead, we see our picture distorted, dirty and unstable and as a result, we find it difficult to make a decision and find a way –we cannot see the road clearly.

“Your heart should be like a calm lake”.


moon and lack


Our life is dynamic, and cannot always be in a peaceful and calm state. We should always, after we lose our calm and peaceful place, find once more the point of silence, the same point of the lake, and know how it serves us in life and why we should cherish it. Sometimes we can return to it quickly, and sometimes it will take more time. Please do not despair – just keep practicing.

My patients ask me how to meditate, and what to think about. In my experience it does not really matter; meditation is just something that happens on its own. It is a simple state of presence and connectedness. Sometimes one only needs to ask for it, “I want to feel connected and to be present here”. And then, it happens.

Even when you spend quality time by yourselves, it may be meditation. Even receiving acupuncture treatment can be an hour of meditation, just to be intentionally quiet and centered. Meditation can be five minutes or half an hour. Remember, this is not a time measured by the clock, but one of noticing intention and feeling from the heart, “Now I’m here, present, attentive, ready, connected”. One day it will be five minutes, the next day, half hour, and after a week, it may be minutes or half an hour. The time on the clock is not really important, at least in my opinion.

It does not really matter how you meditate. What is important is that, through mediation, you create and find your stillness, your center, and the quiet point.

There are so many ways to look for the path that fits your personality and the present time in your life. Allow yourself to change and diversify. Allow yourself to listen to inner guidance or use meditation guides as appropriate. This practice also reinforces the intuition.